In and Out – The Sacred Way to Love Yourself

The idea of self care is a universal foreign language to the busiest of entrepreneurs, worker bees and career enthusiasts. But in the past several years, it has also become somewhat of a trend. You see it everywhere. From aromatherapy inspired products (heck, they have an entire stones inspired section of Bath and Body Works!), to health and fitness and what the best products are to consume and spend your dollars on.

It’s through these rising conversations that I was able to connect with a person who is not at all a stranger to self care, or taking care of others.

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Khet Waas Hutip is the owner of Sacred Rootz, LLC, housed in the same facility as several other equally amazing Black owned businesses (such as Third Eye Lounge and Central Station’s Official Mixtape Headquarters) at Grand Central Station in North Charleston. We were introduced by my fellow client, Ikeoma Divine, who owns Third Eye Lounge. During our conversation, I was amazed at how often I was around his business, but never got an opportunity to peek inside.

He broke down his story, sharing how he got started at a very young age through his upbringing. Hear how he was able to turn something that is a natural way of life into something that was able to help others around him.

Believe in Your Own Magic

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Are you happy with your life?

In a room filled with fellow Black girl bosses with their own careers, passions, and most authentically, struggles, I was forced to think deeply about this question.

But before doing that, I was asked to grab a card on a door filled with plenty of quotes – all encouraging, all reflective.

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They were very similar to those I had seen around the Dream Big Weekend trips .

Afterwards, upon walking in, I was greeted by the voice of Jessica herself, bubbly, loud, and getting herself ready to do life with several other women lucky to be invited to this closed, bonding, empowerment session.

How would you rate your life at this moment?

In front of us was a sheet of paper with a color wheel and colored pencils. We were asked to rate our life in parts such as career, friendships, romantic relationships, health, etc.

Writing a simple number down wasn’t hard. Coloring was even therapeutic, but having to elaborate on why I chose those numbers, and why I felt the way I did was difficult.

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There’s a notebook that I carry around all the time, and on the outside it reads “Happiness is an inside job.” Through the intimate discussions, I thought back to this very quote, and how I am in control of what I choose to take in my life. There is no reason to be unhappy if I can make a choice to do something or think about something differently. Of course, it’s easier said than done, but there’s power in words and action. Our words manifest the action. And with everyone sharing where they are – young, and seasoned, everyone had the common goal of happiness and fulfillment.

Fulfillment in our relationships. Happiness with our careers and personal endeavors. Upon leaving, we eached read the card we chose one by one. And altogether, without even realizing it, we had told a magnified story that included one another.


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Jessica Amaro is the creator of #DreamBigWeekend – which encourages you to take a few days away from any distractions, to be around other women who resonate with you, and places a focus on living our best lives.

You can visit her website to see the Dream Big Weekend Experience at https://www.dreambigweekend.com/

Be sure to LIKE her Facebook page as well to see a recap of last year’s Dream Big Weekend trip. More to come from this year!

Lights, Camera, Glam – Beat To A T

Makeup is often described as a cover up for women and their natural features. But to a woman themselves, it is often described as an enhancer. The finishing touch that completes a look. And maybe on a not so tip top, energetic day, it’s a huge confidence boost.


Years ago, MoNique said it best on her talk show: “When you look good, you feel good, and when you feel good, you look good.” Jasmine has become a vessel not only in the beauty industry, but for Black women who utilize her services and know her best as “Beat To A T”.

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Beat 2 a T Beauty Services is a brand that caters to every aspect of beauty.  From make up and hair, to mink lash extensions, it is the one stop shop beauty service.

When asked what Jasmine’s desires are for her business, it centered around being able to go above and beyond for her clients, providing spectacular service, but also stepping outside of her own comfort zone and getting herself out there.

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You can find Beat 2 A T beauty services on Facebook:

https://www.facebook.com/Beatme2aT/ 

In my element

When you enter inside Grand Central Station, located on Remount Road in North Charleston, you’ll instantly feel drawn to many places. One of which you’ll find tucked away to your left with a beckoning aroma and soothing tunes.

3rd Eye Lounge becomes your home away from home.

It becomes hard to drop in for five or ten minutes when you’ve become curious about the beauty inside. Ikeoma Divine, the creator, welcomes you in with a smile. Though mostly introverted, the conversations you will have with her will place you on higher ground.


One of the first things she will tell you is that the answer lies within you. She provides the tools to help you acknowledge what you’ve already known to be true. I guess that’s why there’s a level of comfort within her dwelling. Creating a space of authenticity. That is what she provides by doing it all flawlessly.

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Over the next seven weeks, Ikeoma will lead others a journey of self transformation. Through her Rootwork for Self Transformation course, she will help others remove blockages and stagnation of 7 energy points all connected to one’s emotional and physical body. This will all be done through rootwork rituals helping you to explore the imbalances of seven chakras.

For more information, visit https://oriinstitute.com/course/rootwork-for-self-transformation/ to explore and sign up today.

You can find out more about the safe space Keke has through 3rd Eye Lounge here:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thirdeyelounge/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/3rdeyelounge/

Twitter: www.twitter.com/3rdeyelounge

 

Now Available: Life Through Art

It’s official.

I am taking things to the next level, and helping others do the same.

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Life Through Art is for the millennial creative, visionary, or business owner.

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It was created with the intention to act as an extension of an already developed idea or brand. For creators, we have a tendency to stand in our own way. Whether it be how we execute a photo campaign for a project or business, announcing our newest business venture, or just putting out consistent content. We don’t trust everyone to handle the intimate affairs of creativity, but it often hurts us when we end up having lackluster images, and we’re not putting out any content for months on end.

As a person who works full time, has a communications platform (Conqueror Movement), and is currently working as a part time freelancer, I fully understand how hard it is just to stay afloat and keep up. I am a creator who lives my life fully through my art. And now, I want to help others take their business to the next level by doing the things I already do on a weekly basis, and love doing.

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What my clients get from booking with Life Through Art Media:

  • A consultation session which allows us to get to know each other, it allows me to get to know your brand, and ways that my platform can serve you.
  • *A monthly workflow of visuals catered to your brand. From the consultation, we can figure out if you need help putting out consistent content on a monthly basis or just tying up loose ends. If you demands are monthly, we will be working to figure out what your brands needs to develop a package that can involve up to the following: photo content, video content, social media content creation

As a welcome to those who haven’t worked with me yet, or would like to work with me again, I am offering a reduced rate on my works for ONE WEEK ONLY.

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Prices only apply until May 15th. after that, video or photo services will go back to their original, full price. Bookings can be made now for advanced dates.

If you are ready to live your life through your art, and exceed your expectations, book me.

Getting Back to Me

2017 was all about growth and creating a solid foundation.

On January 1, 2017, I entered this year on the worst term possible. I was struggling with my relationship. Struggling with my self esteem both personally and professionally. I had maintained a lifestyle in Charleston doing my career that I love wholeheartedly, and not being able to afford to live the lifestyle I was “living” in.

But as the saying goes, it’s not how you start. It’s how you finish.

In February, my rocky relationship came to a traumatic end. I would be broken down in the worst way, and would have to find myself again.

In March, I decided to step out on faith with my goals and shifted my focus to The Conqueror Movement, which is my communications platform that serves as a connecting point for Black millennial creatives and professionals. With the help of my two best friends, we created “Falling In Love With Your Passion”. This event would host 50 people in one room, most of who I had never met before personally. The idea of this event was to encourage Black creators that what you do and what you’re passionate about, you must maintain a relationship with it. It must be something that you dedicate your time and energy to as if it were a one on one relationship. It would be the successful catalyst for a great year for my platform. My solid team would go on to create several events and opportunities throughout the year that would help these creators grow, learn and evolve, such as monthly brunch meetups, an annual celebration , of the company, and a documentary showing called “Find Your Light” . But not only did these projects help others, they allowed me to get back to myself and see what my true potential is.

I was pushed in ways I had never been pushed. Pushed to persevere. Pushed to trust the process. Pushed to trust others.

Now that I think of it, that would be the foundation of what I learned this year about myself and what I would learn I need to do for myself.

I learned that energy can be toxic if it’s wrong. Be protective of yours and don’t allow others to steal your joy.

My life experiences are constantly shaping me, and that’s important.

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If you cannot learn from what you do, what you see around you, and even the people you find yourself around, you are doing things wrong.

Looking ahead, I want to be more open about the things I have experienced so that those things can help others. I also want to be more real with myself about where I am, where I want to be, and just learning how to be more unapologetic.

In 2018, you will see a lot more from me, starting with this website.

Things have changed since I last debuted it on my birthday, May 30 of 2015. I have acquired my dream job, I have grown from a youngin’ to a young woman, and I am more confident in my abilities. You no longer need to see the labor of my work, you know what I’m capable of. The question now is: Who Is Khadijah?

You will find out alot more than you could imagine.

Going into the new year, I hope you will visualize your biggest fear and conquer it. I hope you won’t let it define you.

Stay tuned, friends.

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Tis the season for love, laughter, happiness and joy.

Super excited for all of the amazing memories to be made in 2018, and the amazing new beginnings happening for everyone before the New Year comes in.

Last week, I broke out the camera for a photo session, and to my and the bride to be’s surprise, it would turn into so much more.

You can see the complete moments of Kadijah and Qadir’s engagement on my updated Portraits page!

Interested in booking a session? Let’s chat! Email me at: kdennisbiz@gmail.com for a personalized quote for your session.

Located in Charleston, SC but am available to drive anywhere you’d like.

 

Falling in Love at the Right Time.

Thank you.

For the unwavering love, the support, kind words, and for your listening ears. When it comes to creating something on your own, you take a leap of faith with every decision you make. From what the name of it will be, and what it represents to you, your desired audience and who exactly you are talking to, and most importantly, the words you will say.

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For a long time, I struggled to answer all of those questions, and questioned why I wouldn’t make ground with my company.

When I started taking more time thinking of those things, and less on comparing my road to others, I started to see the changes.

The Conqueror Movement: a communications platform connecting Black millennials of the Carolinas, inspiring them to use their platforms to give back to their communities.

To be a conqueror means to overcome any and all obstacles standing in your way. I overcame many things to keep this going, but because the journey was never about me but on the people I could inspire with this, it wasn’t hard to keep moving with it, to allow it to still be a major part of my life.

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Last week, I got to see a 5-year vision come to life. This platform was created to see Black millennial creatives come together, connect with others from the same state and communities and really working together to create something positive, and I’ve begun to see just that.

My company (wow, still surreal to say) held our very first event last week in Charleston, SC entitled “Falling In Love With Your Passion”. This intimate networking mixer was something our team thought people could really benefit from. But we wanted people to gain more out of this, so we came up with the concept of talking relationship style. How can you maintain a relationship with your passion despite the obstacles you face and wanting to give up?

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Since the event, we’ve gotten lots of messages asking for more from us, and we are pleased to give it to you.

But before doing so, I wanted to take a moment to soak all of this in, and I encourage you to do the same every time you accomplish something new. Too often, when we finally reach a goal, we don’t take enough time to enjoy it, reflect on it, and really learn from it.

It took us 5 years to get to this point. I didn’t have a team for 4 years, and now, I have two amazing gentlemen (pictured in the first photo above) who have really supported me through this journey. I didn’t have a readership before, but now, there are many people, most of whom I don’t know, who are watching closely for what’s to come.

Great things truly take time, and I’m grateful for the amount of time that it’s taken to learn and grow. It’s takeoff time now.

– K

 

Because Life Is: Putting one foot in front of the other

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How do you handle hard situations without losing yourself in your problems? It’s always hard when you have an idea of where you feel your life is going, where your steps are taking you, and thinking that you have control of it all. But, I learned very quickly that I do not.

I never quite knew how to answer that question. And with being so young, there’s a lot more that I will experience in life that I won’t know how to handle. But, I’m learning the hard way that it’s all about embracing the journey. Embracing the hard steps, and never giving up on myself before I show that I have something to prove.

This month alone has really tested the way I see myself and how much I feel I’m personally capable of.

Being a creative, an entrepreneur and a journalist sound like they aren’t interchangeable or could mesh well together, but they find their ways. I could flourish in all aspects, dive head first into my works and not have a problem doing so many things at once from sun up to sun down. I’ve always been involved with so much, and I always feel the need to act on every idea that comes into my head (However, I have quickly learned that is a recipe for disaster!). But when do you make time for what’s happening personally? To deal with the personal emotions that make their way into your everyday life?

That is something I hadn’t quite figured out, just went with the flow. There’s nothing wrong with not having a strict plan, but there is a problem with ignoring the very things your mind needs to take care of.

As business creatives, we tend to develop this machine like mentality that we can push off things, conversations and conflicts and channel any negative energy into our works.

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Looking at this month alone, I have lost way more than I gained from not being real with myself.

It’s so easy to get caught up in answering “I’m fine” to every “How are you?” question. But what happens when you’re not and more things continue to happen?

There was a moment I had this month where things just kept happening. And it was never really anything that people have done towards me themselves, but it was mostly the act of knowing what I deserve and making some hard decisions. But I thought saying “I’m fine” would just alleviate the need to deal with those things head on. But you only do yourself a disservice when you don’t.

The same effort and energy you put into making sure a plan is carried out and it works in your career is the same effort, time and energy you need to put into your personal life.

Show people around you how much you really care. Have those hard conversations if it’s on your mind and you know you can’t be your best self until those feelings are expressed. Be intentional about the growth you want to make and get real. Because at the end of the day, you have one life to live and you don’t want to go through life feeling stagnant and in the same place years from now.

There’s nothing wrong with needing to deal with the hard stuff.

And when it’s all said and done, make sure you continue your walk and put one foot right in front of the other.

 

Because Life Is: About Celebrating your Victories

It’s been two years now since I launched my very own website, and two years since I vowed that I would use it as a way to create memories and projects that I can be proud of. Here we are at the top of 2017, almost done with month one! I feel like there is so much in store for the year, and even though the challenges are unforeseeable, I’m learning how to celebrate myself and things I do well, and appreciating the harder moments when things may not always go as planned.

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Last year, I couldn’t have imagined I would’ve accomplished as much as I did. As I discussed in my previous blog piece, “Because Life Is: About Being Humble”  there were many things I fought hard for that I didn’t know if I would ever achieve. Now, I’m embracing a more confident side of myself that knows I deserve those things…and will continue to strive for the very best.

A big part of that new found confidence is learning how to simply say “thank you” when someone notices your hard work. A big thing for me is that I could never bring myself to say those words. I always combatted them with a compliment to the other person, or shrugged it off as no big deal. But, in fact it is!

Learning how to recognize that hard work goes into everything I do is an inner fight, but it’s necessary. Because if I don’t recognize it, how can others who barely know who I  am do the same? Being your own worst critic is no excuse to shrug away every accomplishment as something you “just did for fun” or “because you had to”.

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So, I’ve begun to use thank you a little more. And I’ve begun to really meditate and focus on the things that I’ve done well that will hopefully push me to further excel and produce great works.

How do you get over humility versus self doubt?

  1. Write a list of the biggest things that you’ve done that either surprised you, or you feel you really did well and tried hard at this.
  2. Take a look at that list, post it if you need to! Then really pat yourself on the back, because those are things at some point in life you didn’t know how to do.
  3. When someone offers you a compliment, say thank you. Even if you don’t believe it at first, they do! Write it down, and post it on your wall, or someplace you can always see it. I guarantee you, the way you see yourself will begin to transform.

Serving yourself up compliments, or better yet acknowledgement, is not cocky. It is  necessary. How are we making sure that we continue to bring our very best to the table each and every single time? We can’t do that if we don’t learn to recognize our accomplishments for ourselves.

So, start celebrating those small victories!